I've supported him for 5 years, taken on that Doctor's Partner role, put my ambitions on the back burner, and it hasn't done a lick of good. I don't want that to happen. Honestly, he probably is giving you as much of his free time as he can,and can't give you any more. But daughter and I agreed that this teaching was unhealthy. Communicate and get those answers, OP. I sacrificed my career not in medicine but I have advanced degrees in my profession because I felt so lucky to be able to be at home raising my two wonderful sons. Now those are not the problems in my head anymore, whats in my head is how arewe goin to deal with this, ive told her sometimes u wont have anytime for me nor for your kids if we decide to have kids you wont be at the holidays nothing like that and she is always tryin to see everything positive and tells me dont worry ill schedule myself, and im like baby you will not be able to schedule urself your life would be in a hospital. I seriously questioned the future of our relationship based on that fact alone. I learned to read by reading the Book of Mormon. If she can't put you before her religion then you need to walk away.
I have learned this painfully with my child growing up in the LDS community. I have feeling you stopped pursuing anyone unlikely to go for you. Most mormon girls look at guys like you as a project and that they have a lifetime to work on the project. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you. Keep me posted, please. On the other hand, if you believe God is bigger than we can imagine, and is not constrained by religious dogma, you have as good a chance as any at a happy, thriving relationship. With such high standards of perfection, Mormon girls want a man who validates their efforts and confidently provides directionвa man who expects them to be beautiful. Dating does not necessarily mean an exclusive relationship.
But he's got to know the aggravation and pain that he likely will face. It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her. One small thing to add here.
I was lucky with my TBM. Mormonism and Non-Mormonism don't link to future lives. Make sure she is Even after that, the Church discourages them from entering serious relationships before they are considering marriage.